Premature ejaculation is a pretty devastating problem, one that effects their partners just as much as it does them. Simply put it’s a lack of control over a man’s ejaculation causing it to occur sooner than they would wish it to. Naturally it ties into a man’s sexual exitement during sex and depending on the situation the timing can occur at different stages. Some men can ejaculate almost as soon as foreplay starts, others right before penetration and others soon after.

Unfortunately this can cause some anxiety between the couples and for some males this anxiety can affect their performance the next time they attempt intercourse. Therefore, we as males must accept that premature ejaculation can happen to all men, especially if they haven’t had sex for a long time. Accepting this will keep anxiety at bay helping our next sexual encounter.

Unfortunately for some men this is a common occurance and they may need to seek the help of a qualifed sex therapist.

The trouble is that most men find it an embarassing subject and the last thing they will want to do is seek professional help, and they will only resort to this as a last resort. So, what can they do to alleviate the problem? I did a bit of Googling and have come up with the following tips.

  • Relax, don’t stress over past performance.
  • Use the first ejaculation as a prelude to further sex. This means if you have just ejaculated prematurely, rather than worry about it, take it in your stride and continue with the foreplay. More than likely you will notice that your second orgasm will take much longer than your first and you can use the time it takes for a new erection in teasing your loving partners erogenous zones.
  • Apparently men can also use a version of the Kegal exercise that I mentioned in the last post. The muscles involved are the same muscle that you would use were you to stop urinating mid stream. You simply do it while your bladder is empty, contracting your muscles tightly and holding if for 10 seconds. You would do this up to a dozen times several times a day.
  • There are several herbal products that profess to help males suffering premature ejacualation. One such product is called Delay, and it consists of Withania somnifera (Ashwagandha), Cnidium Monnieri, Tribulus Terrestris, Semen Cuscutae (Dodder seed), Dioscorea Villosa (Wild yam), Passiflora Incarnata (Passion flower), Curculigo Orchioides (Black musale), Cardamom and  Zinc oxide.

If you have tried this product we would love to hear of your experience with it, whether it be positive or negative.

While I have only briefly touched on the subject, I have come across one particular article that I have found to be very informative. The thing to remember is that the worst thing that you can do is to dwell on any poor performance. You owe it to yourelf and to your partner to take whatever steps necessary to resolve the problem, and if this means seeing your local GP or a professional sex therapist, then so be it.

Some of you may wonder what a mere male could possibly know of some of the problems that some women may face as they progress in there lives and while I may not know of their issues first hand, I do hear of them from different sources, and upon acquiring knowledge of a problem I will endeavor to find a solution.

A lot of problems that women may come across is actually located in the vaginal area. These can be due to changes that have occurred due to having children or they can creep up on them as they grow older. One problem that is usually associated with older women is incontinence but what many women do not realize is that it can occur in younger women. I’ve known this problem exist because I’ve seen ads on TV promoting nappies for adults, and while they are better as far as protection goes I felt sure that they should only be used as a last resort.

I’ve even heard of some women who have reduced sexual responsiveness because things just aren’t as tight down there as they used to be. Again I felt that there would be something available that could resolve this conditions, especially as I’ve heard the vaginal area is a muscle and I know that muscles can be worked to make them stronger. Little did I know that there was one product that could resolve both problems.

So what is it and how does it work? Here is a little excerpt  from an article in Marie Claire Magazine that’s posted on their website!

WHAT IT IS A device that tones your pubococcygeus muscle or PC muscle using resistance.

HOW IT WORKS You insert it into your vagina, then you practice squeezing and releasing the device by tightening your vaginal wall around it.

WHAT WE FOUND “When I opened the box I thought it was really funny looking. But it was easy to use. I started with the lowest of fifteen tension settings and worked up to level five by the end of a four weeks.”

BETTER ORGASM? “Yes. Sex is definitely better for both me and my partner after using it. He says I feel tighter – and I can feel how strongly I contract, especially during orgasm.”

BIOFEEDBACK“Faith’s muscles were healthy and well balanced to begin with, and she added even more stamina by doing these exercises, which accounts for her positive results,” says Dr. Glazer.

The Kegelmaster™ is truly amazing in what it can do for your sex life. In fact, we are so confident that the Kegelmaster™ will improve your sex life, that if you are not completely satisfied, return it and Kegelmaster, LTD will refund 500% of your money! Nowhere else will you find a company with the confidence to stand behind their product like this!


You too can rejuvenate the vaginal area by discovering the Advanced Kegelmaster for 2009…
Learn more of the Kegelmaster by watching the actual instruction video.


Another excerpt from the Kegelmaster website;

Teri Hatcher speaks about the effectiveness of the Kegelmaster™ on the Tonight Show with Jay Leno
The stunningly beautiful and famed actress Teri Hatcher of the hit TV show Desperate Housewives may have shocked some fans this past May 4th when she appeared as a guest on the Tonight show with Jay Leno and revealed one of her personal fitness secrets.

In a candid, unrehearsed and unpaid for endorsement, the femme fatale raved about the best thing that ever happened to her sex life, she was talking, of course, about the Kegelmaster™!

She spared no intimate details of her newly found sexual sensations and other health benefits.  She spoke of the simplicity of use, the quick results and how the Kegelmaster™ has improved the quality of her life!

“All the other ‘desperate housewives’ are engaged or married, but, when I get a boyfriend, he’s gonna hit the jackpot!  Every woman should have a Kegelmaster™!” ~ Actress, Teri Hatcher

You can even watch the actual video while you are there.


Sometimes, a change in the environment is all that it takes to stimulate the old sexual urges. Think about it, you been together for years doing it the same old way in the same places, it’s no wonder that sex just isn’t as exiting as it used to be. What you really need is some uniquely styled furniture designed specifically for your sexual enjoyment.

What every sexually active person would love is something that transforms ordinary beds and bedrooms into creative sex terrain by employing angles, elevations, curves, textures, environments and motion. After all, sometimes all it takes for that added pleasure is trying new angles and positions, ones that give deeper penetration thereby leading to greater pleasure. The trouble is that no matter how fit a couple may be, maintaining the position necessary to obtain these angles can be quite tiring and the last thing that you want in the throes of sexual pleasure is to get a cramp. Luckily I’ve managed to source a site whose one main aim is to give their customers the opportunity to achieve the ultimate sexual experience.

Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear

The Liberator series is just one of the many superbly crafted products from Liberator’s. bedroom adventure gear. Liberator is a luxury and love style brand that celebrates intimacy by inspiring romantic imagination. Established with the conviction that sensual pleasure and fulfillment are essential to a well-lived life, Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear empowers exploration, fantasy and the communication of desire, no matter the person’s shape, size or ability.

Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear

If you are looking for something to reignite that sexual spark in your relationship I reckon you should take a look at the products available at Liberator ranging from sex toys and lingerie to role playing items as well as a library full of books and videos.

There may be times when for no reason at all some women may find they are suffering from some form of sexual dysfunction. Perhaps they find that they’re not interested in sex anymore, or if they are they’re having problems maintaining the required level of arousal or they are just not achieving an orgasm anymore.

There can be many causes behind their dilemma, ranging from the medication they may be taking to the constant daily stress that they have to put up with. I would suggest that any woman suffering from sexual dysfunction see their family doctor to see if perhaps she could pinpoint the cause and then prescribe a solution.

If you are still not happy with the results and you have tried everything including changing your routine by having sex during different times of the day, increasing the foreplay and it’s still not working then perhaps your next step would be to try a herbal remedy.

Nymphomax is one such herbal remedy that is touted to be the ultimate libido enhancer. Geared towards women it is said to contain only the most potent aphrodisiacs, and orgasm enhancement herbs. Its 100% natural, and only needs to be taken before sex. The ingredients found in Nymphomax include Kacip Fatimah, Horny Goat weed, Panax Ginseng, Piper nigrum and L-Arginine.

Naturally, being a male I have never used it myself but I managed to source a supplier who has the following money back guarantee.

If in the unlikely event you are not 100% satisfied with the results of any of our products you may return them within 60 days of purchase, and we will cheerfully issue a full refund (less any shipping and handling fees) on any number of unopened bottles and up to one opened bottle, even if its completely empty! Please contact us for return instructions.

Having a guarantee is very important because what may work for one person may not work for another and it’s good to know that if your one of the unlucky ones at least you can get your money back.

You will find this and other herbal remedies, for men and women at the Herbal Sex Store.

As I’ve only just started promoting products from this site I would love to have any feedback from anyone who has dealt with them.

One thing that a partner may find extremely stimulating is watching his loved one stimulating themselves. This may later lead to a very fulfilling sexual encounter. The problem is that not everyone is comfortable with doing this in public, even if it’s in front of their loved one.

This is when certain sexual toys may come in handy. The following is an ad from a site that is said to have the HOTTEST SEX Toy Online.

According to Martin Logan, one of the directors of the company;

“Sexerciseme is committed to continually releasing new, innovative, fun, quality, adult products for the world to enjoy “get on &…get off” is a proud motto we have adopted. We are establishing ourselves as leaders in product development, creating NEW products of the absolute highest quality and taking the industry to a new level. Our products are more than just another boring sex toy… they have been specially designed to focus on fitness, stress relief and most importantly guarantee satisfaction”

How do they rate their success? Again from their official site.

Sexerciseme is committed to continually releasing new, innovative, fun, quality, adult products for the world to enjoy “get on &…get off” is a proud motto we have adopted. We are establishing ourselves as leaders in product development, creating NEW products of the absolute highest quality and taking the industry to a new level. Our products are more than just another boring sex toy… they have been specially designed to focus on fitness, stress relief and most importantly guarantee satisfaction

Remember, get your partner involved as it’s a lot more enjoyable when you do it with the one you love.

Edit: For some reason this site has gone off line!