“My husband wants me to give him a blowjob and I can’t bear to bring myself to do it!”

“I don’t mind giving giving him a blowjob but he want’s me to swallow and I just gag. It’s such a turn off.”

Let’s face it, not all women are comfortable giving a blow job, and even less want to go the whole way by sallowing his semen. So what is a woman to do when she wants to make him happy but can’t bring herself to actually doing something she finds repulsive?

The answer could well be the the blow job machine, a unique sex toy that is designed to give the male the sensation of a realistic blowjob. Just like a real blow job it will stroke the penis up and down and even comes with a fully adjustable speed control giving absolute control over the amount of pleasure felt by the male.

So, you see, it can be just the thing for those couples where blowjobs may be causing a rift in the marriage, but the blow job machine could be so much more. Imagine those couples where the many may ejaculate too quickly for the woman. There may be such feelings of guilt or inadequacy that any further attempt in lovemaking is lost. If one were to introduce the the blow job machine as part of the foreplay with early ejaculation being the whole purpose of it’s use, there would be no need for the lovemaking to stop. It would continue, only this time the male should last a lot longer.

It would also come in handy for those women who have a low libido or the man who has a higher sex drive. Even when the woman is not in the mood to have sex she could use it on her loved one to release all that pent up emotion bringing him to a climax, one more fulfilling than doing it on his own.

The truth of the matter is that not many men would buy one for himself, but for a woman, to show him how much she loves him, perhaps it would make the perfect gift, and seeing how Valentines day is just around the corner, what better time than right now.

With Xmas being just around the corner, there will be a lot of people scratching their heads wondering what to buy their loved one. One often wonders what to buy someone who is perceived to have everything. Perhaps this year it is time to think out of the box.

There is something that every healthy sexual couple has in common, and that is the desire that they are pleasuring their mate as much as they are being pleasured, and when you have been together for awhile, it’s not unusual to wonder if this is the case.

Something to keep in mind is no matter if you’re newly weds or if you’ve been married for some years there is nothing wrong with giving that special gift that may just spice up things in the bedroom, or if you’re adventurous in any other room of the house.

Here are a few possibilities for some sexy special Xmas gifts.

For Her

There are a lot of women who think of themselves last, especially if they have kids, and the last thing that they would buy for themselves is some sexy lingerie. So, as the man of the house, you would be doing both of you a favor if you were to consider a nice sexy Wet Look Halter w/ Crotchless Panty & Garter Set for only $27.95. Or if that is a little too raunchy and suggestive you may want to settle for a lovely Crystal Adorned Teddy for only $26.95.

The fact is that they have an enormous selection of sexy outfits and lingerie, too many for me to mention in one post, and you can even get Free Shipping, plus 2 Free Gifts at adamevetoys.com!

NEWS FLASH! You can actually get 50% Off Any One Item at Adamevetoys.com Coupon Code:JOLLY09 Exp: 12/25/09. Yep, this special will only last until 25th of December so you will want to get in early. I’m not sure if the free shipping applies if using this coupon, but then there’s no harm in trying.

The Vibratex Flower Blossom Vibrating Clitoral Stimulator would make a lovely choice as I’ve heard it was named sex toy of the year. Being a unique clitoral and g-spot vibrator, one that is designed to be worn while you make love. Here is a little excerpt from their website.

The unique We-Vibe, as featured in Cosmopolitan, The Independent, The Sun, Mens Health, Reuters, Playboy and many more, was voted the best sex toy of the year.

The We-Vibe is tiny but has 2 fantastically powerful motors and a supple shape to fit you perfectly and stimulate your g spot and clitoris with exquisite pleasure waves.

Even though it can be worn during intercourse (giving him a rather nice vibe also!) you can just wear your We-Vibe for secret pleasure around the house.

The We-Vibe has a snug fit and is quiet enough to wear under your clothes for secret fun.Try taking it for a walk, in the car or to liven up your next train journey.

The possibilities are endless.

You will find this special product under the “Luxury Sex Toys” section. This is only two selections from hundreds that you can choose from. Imagine how easy it will be to buy something special for almost any occasion.

For Him

Now when it comes to men there are somethings that they probably never consider buying for themselves, and there is one product that may even help out some women. I’m talking about the women who consistently get asked by their man to give them a blow job. Now while some are fine with this others persevere only because they do not want to disappoint. Well ladies, why not by him a male masturbator, or more specifically, the blow job machine. Designed to work the penis like a real blowjob this could be the perfect foreplay for any couple, and when you have a real headache you can send him off on his own.

Naturally, you can also follow the above example and buy yourself some sexy lingerie or perhaps something to play out one of his favorite sexual fantasies thereby killing two birds with one stone, something for him and for you.

Whatever you decide, once you consider sex toys and other sexual aids, you have to admit, the possibilities for gifts become endless.

As I have said before, sexual health is important in a loving relationship, and there are some who will go as far as to say that its an important part of a person’s overall health.

Apparently although a lot of women, up to 70%, have sexual health issues and of these only 20% will actually deal with it. The others are just two embarrassed. How do you know if you have a sexual health issue? There are some signs that you should look out for.

  1. A lack of desire to engage in sexual activity
  2. Not being able to become sexually aroused
  3. Not being able to have an orgasm
  4. Pain during intercourse
  5. Excessive desire to engage in sexual activity
  6. Vaginal Dryness

Of these six issues the most common is the lack of desire. These two videos may provide some help for those affected by these issues

Follow this link to the site, Sex & A Healthier You!


Many fail to see the importance of sexual health in a loving relationship and those that do may turn to Oral Sex to enhance the way they interact with their partner, but perhaps rather than getting down to doing it they should first concentrate on something much more important. There are many books that will claim to instruct on how to perform oral sex properly, but this particular one is a little different.

Written by Doctors Jordan Paul and Brenda Freshman, their book on ORAL SEX hopes to teach couples how to listen and talk their way to greater intimacy and in turn, the best sex of their lives.

While this book’s title is somewhat misleading, the lessons learned are a lot more important than simple instructions on the different forms of oral sex. Yeah I know that some of you would like to know how to pleasure your partner using oral sex, but let’s leave that for another post.


There are a few reviews of this book, and one of the best I’ve come across was written by Nonie, of which this is a small excerpt.

The first chapter, “Having a Heart On” is all about the Heart Connection. Within this chapter they include everything with regards to having the “Light On” for both of you to connect and also what happens when the “Light Is Off” and the disconnection that will follow. During the time that your heart wavers from on to off, you realize that one main feeling courses through you; Fear. Through learning from exercises of compassionate listening and taking on personal responsibility you will see how you can take action to return to your heart.

Within Chapter 2, “The Nuts and Bolts of Holistic Sex”, you will find how the body, mind and spirit intertwine together to make sex the most intimate experience ever. Here each segment will be broken down so that the reader can grasp how each part, whether it be the body (scientifically and physically), mind (beliefs of masculinity and femininity) or spirit (living in the present) is shown by example within a quote or testimony.

Chapter 3, “Oral Sex for Fun, Pleasure and Healing”, brings communication to the front, and shows how it can be expressed in so many great ways. Having fun means going back to the basics and using what we all have within ourselves to “pleasure” oneself.

I remember this story I heard a long time ago, about a motivation expert who was holding a seminar. To start thing off he asked his audience how many people had sex that day. About 10% of the audience put their hands up. He then asked how many people had sex at least once a week, and roughly 70% put their hands up. Next he asked how many had sex at least once a month and 20-30% put their hands up.

There was a bit of a buzz in the room by then, and when he asked how many had sex once a year, a little geeky looking guy started jumping up and down, screaming excitedly, “Thats me, that’s me! I have sex once a year!”

The motivation expert, a little incredulous asked, “Really? Only once a year? Well, if that’s the case, I can’t for the life of me understand why your so excited about it?”

The little geek bloke, in a voice not becoming his small stature Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders Deluxe Sexy Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader Adult Costume - Small screamed out, “BECAUSE TONIGHTS THE NIGHT!”

That little story leads into this post perfectly. I’ve found on more that one occasion that nothing builds up the sexual juices more than anticipation. When you’ve been married for awhile and especially if you have kids, there just doesn’t seem to be enough time for sex and you tend to squeeze it in when you can. It almost becomes robotic, and while it released the sexual urges, it’s not what you call particularly exciting.

What I reckon couples should do is to plan a special night where there will be no interruptions. See if you can offload the kids for the night so that you can let your inhibitions run wild.

One great way to get the juices going is to have a little play acting. Perhaps the little lady could dress up as a Dallas Cowgirl Cheerleader, or you could lead up to the big event by trying some adult style games.

The thing is that this is something that you should plan together for a future date. Seeing as Halloween is not all that far away, perhaps something with a Halloween theme is in order. Personally I reckon sex on Halloween would be a whole lot better than getting candy. Then again, why not have a bit of candy as well.