Premature ejaculation is a pretty devastating problem, one that effects their partners just as much as it does them. Simply put it’s a lack of control over a man’s ejaculation causing it to occur sooner than they would wish it to. Naturally it ties into a man’s sexual exitement during sex and depending on the situation the timing can occur at different stages. Some men can ejaculate almost as soon as foreplay starts, others right before penetration and others soon after.
Unfortunately this can cause some anxiety between the couples and for some males this anxiety can affect their performance the next time they attempt intercourse. Therefore, we as males must accept that premature ejaculation can happen to all men, especially if they haven’t had sex for a long time. Accepting this will keep anxiety at bay helping our next sexual encounter.
Unfortunately for some men this is a common occurance and they may need to seek the help of a qualifed sex therapist.
The trouble is that most men find it an embarassing subject and the last thing they will want to do is seek professional help, and they will only resort to this as a last resort. So, what can they do to alleviate the problem? I did a bit of Googling and have come up with the following tips.
- Relax, don’t stress over past performance.
- Use the first ejaculation as a prelude to further sex. This means if you have just ejaculated prematurely, rather than worry about it, take it in your stride and continue with the foreplay. More than likely you will notice that your second orgasm will take much longer than your first and you can use the time it takes for a new erection in teasing your loving partners erogenous zones.
- Apparently men can also use a version of the Kegal exercise that I mentioned in the last post. The muscles involved are the same muscle that you would use were you to stop urinating mid stream. You simply do it while your bladder is empty, contracting your muscles tightly and holding if for 10 seconds. You would do this up to a dozen times several times a day.
- There are several herbal products that profess to help males suffering premature ejacualation. One such product is called Delay, and it consists of Withania somnifera (Ashwagandha), Cnidium Monnieri, Tribulus Terrestris, Semen Cuscutae (Dodder seed), Dioscorea Villosa (Wild yam), Passiflora Incarnata (Passion flower), Curculigo Orchioides (Black musale), Cardamom and Zinc oxide.
If you have tried this product we would love to hear of your experience with it, whether it be positive or negative.
While I have only briefly touched on the subject, I have come across one particular article that I have found to be very informative. The thing to remember is that the worst thing that you can do is to dwell on any poor performance. You owe it to yourelf and to your partner to take whatever steps necessary to resolve the problem, and if this means seeing your local GP or a professional sex therapist, then so be it.