I am so happy to present to you a guest post from a female reader and I think it’s perfect to have a woman’s view on this subject. Anne is a 38 year old wife and mom of 3 who knows women are every bit as sexual as men. They just need a little more to get them there. When not living, loving, and laughing with her family in the mountains of Virginia, Anne can be found writing about it on her site AnneOnLife.

I ran up the door, opened the stairs, said my pajamas and put on my prayers – turned off my bed, tumbled into my light, and all because he kissed me good-night!

- Author Unknown

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. Before you run out and buy that box of chocolates, a dozen or two overpriced red roses, or even make reservations at the local hot spot think about this. What does the woman in your life really want?

She wants to be romanced.

Sure chocolates are nice, but women are always preoccupied with their weight. Eating all of those chocolates will only make her even more self-conscious. The more self-conscious she is about her body the less likely she is to let you get near it.

Flowers are pretty, but will be dead within the week. Dinner out, well, she might actually like that one.

She wants to feel wanted.

In fact, many women enjoy sex every bit as much as a man. We just need a little more to get us in the mood. The simplest way to do this is with a kiss. Think it’s not that easy? You might be surprised.

Kissing is to women what porn is to men, only better. Want to find her real g-spot? Learn how to kiss the way she wants you to kiss. I once dated a complete jerk because he could kiss, among other things. Kissing is important!

For women, kissing is “an emotional litmus test”

- Love, pleasure, duty: Why women have sex – CNN.com

There are actual scientific studies on kissing, but that is not what I want to discuss today. I want to discuss The Art of Kissing. Because it is an art, you know. Sometimes it seems a lost art, but you can change that.

Do a little research

Go to your local library and scan a few romance novels.

Skip the hokey stuff and find the love scenes. This shouldn’t be too hard. Love scenes in romance novels go on for pages. Get a feel for how women fantasize. It’s different than men. Better still, check out some of the books she’s reading. After all, it’s her fantasies you want to fulfill.

Rent a movie or two.

Watch The Notebook. Besides being one of the best love stories, it has some of the best kissing scenes ever. Fast forward through the parts you don’t like, but watch those kissing scenes. Over and over and as many times as needed. Remember, women want to feel wanted. Make her feel as sexual as the girl in the movie. She loses herself in the moment and you have a very good night.

I also suggest Knight Moves with Christopher Lambert. This is a suspense thriller, but Christopher Lambert knows how to create a lustful mood. The scene is in the beginning. Hit rewind and watch that scene more than once. Bonus – it’s a guy movie, so you can play off the real reason for watching it.

Tip: Don’t watch this with your wife unless you turn it off when the sex scene is over. This is a suspense thriller, not a romantic comedy.

Ask questions, Get feedback

Talk to your wife. What better way to find out what she likes than to ask. Steer clear of vague answer questions. Be direct. Be sincere. Get the ball rolling by telling her what you like. This is called building intimacy guys. If you want a more sustained sex life, then intimacy is key.

Tip: Lighten the mood by giving her a massage while you talk. This relaxes her and takes her mind off any reluctance to answer she may be feeling. It also makes for good foreplay.

Practice makes perfect

Don’t make it about getting some. Nothing says selfish like putting the woman where you want her. This means no gentle coaxing her mouth to your penis. No placing her hand there either. Big turn off. If she’s feeling it, you won’t need to coax her into anything.

Do make it about her. Pucker up, like you mean it. Use your hands and hold her face, pull her close. Kiss her mouth, open and sensual. Kiss her neck, no sucking please. Take your time. Foreplay is important. Don’t stop at her neck, work your way down. Build the mood.

Tip: Remember to kiss her during your love making. This retains intimacy and keeps her in the moment. The more preoccupied she is with you the less likely she is to drift off and start thinking about her perceived flaws.

Try out a few things. Remember what you learned during your sensual Q&A. Emulate the kissing scenes found in the movies you watched. You’ll know what works and what doesn’t by the reaction you get.

Do it right and you may find yourself doing it more often. Now that’s what I call a gift that keeps on giving. And to think, it all started with a kiss.
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Seeing as how I love jokes so much I thought it only fitting that I have a ‘Sex Jokes’ section on this blog. Finally I have an outlet for my six twisted jokes that I couldn’t post on my other blogs

This joke starts when a travelling salesman walks into a pub in some small country town. As he saunters up to the bar he notices a bowl full of ten dollar notes. He gets the barman’s attention and asks him, “Hey mate, I’m new in town. What’s with the bowl full of ten dollar notes?”

The barman replies, “Well you see, I have this mule at the back who has never, ever laughed in his life. If anyone can make him laugh they win the bowl full of money, all it costs is a ten buck note to enter.”

The salesman thought this would be an great way to make some easy money an so he dutifully puts in his ten bucks and walks out the back. Not five minutes later everyone stops in astonishment, their beers held in mid air, as they hear the loud hee hawing of the mule.

The salesman, grinning from ear to ear, pockets the money and casually strolls out.

Months later, the salesman enters the same pub and notices a bowl full of $20 notes. He orders a beer and asks the barman as to what the deal was with the bowl this time.

“Well,” said the barman, “ever since you left, we haven’t been able to get that damn donkey to stop laughing, so now anyone that can make him stop wins all that cash.”

“Cool,” said the salesman as he deposits his $20. He heads on out the back and once again the bar patrons are shocked into silence as the mule stops laughing. Again, the salesman pockets all the money as is about to leave when the barman stops him.

“Hang on a sec mate, the least you can do is tell us how you managed to win all that cash on both occasions.”

“Now worries mate,” replies the salesman, “the first time I told the mule that my cock was bigger than his. The second time all I had to do was how him my cock!”