I reckon it’s pretty safe to say that not all women like to give blow jobs. Of those that do not all women are willing to let the male ejaculate into their mouth and of those that do not all women are willing to swallow the semen. The problem is that most men like blow jobs and so the question is what can a bloke do that would increase his chance of getting one?

Perhaps some of the answers lie in another question.

What’s stopping some women from giving blow jobs?

Could ignorance be a factor? Perhaps not ever having given one they do not want to be seen as being inept at it or are scared that they will get it all wrong? Naturally us blokes don’t mind taking the teacher role but we may never get the chance until we can remove the fear factor.

Perhaps introducing an instructive video, something like How to Give A World-Class Blow Job will do the trick? After all this is something that you can watch together and imagine the fun trialing out some of the techniques? Then again you may want to get some books on the subject. Two that come to mind include, Unzipped: How to Give the Perfect Blow Job and Going Down: An Illustrated Guide to Giving Him the Best Blow Job of His Life.

Naturally it’s not all about you so while it’s probably be a good idea to get a copy of  The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure (Ultimate Guides Series) so that you can learn a few things about how to please her.

I’m Not Putting That Thing In My Mouth…You Pee With It!

I imagine that some women knowing that the penis is used to urinate equate the whole putting in the mouth idea as being unsanitary. If that is the case it’s essential that we make sure we keep it in pristine condition making sure it’s as clean as humanly possible.

If this comes out in conversation it’s a good idea to assure he that you shake every drop after urinating so that there is no chance of any pee going into her mouth. You could even shower together so that she see it’s all nice and clean.

If she feels that way about your penis she may very well feel the same about her vagina, so perhaps during your next session, as part of your foreplay, you may want to go down on her, proving that you have no qualms about her love juice.

Whatever you do though don’t use the ‘I did you now you do me’ routine as that just shows what an insensitive bastard you are. Give her all the time she needs and she will love you all the more for it.

It Tastes Awful

OK, while some women like it others may not. You may be thinking that there isn’t all that much you can do about the taste, I know that’s what I originally thought, but what if there was something that a bloke could do that would improve the taste? It seems feasible, I mean I’ve heard if you put crushed garlic in your socks you would have garlic breath in a matter of minutes, and mothers have to be careful of what they eat or drink as it could affect their breast milk. So why couldn’t there be something a man can take that would improve the taste of his semen?

Enter Yummy Cum which is supposed to be stacked full of potent fruit extracts and natural anti oxidants. Apart from improving your overall health it’s also supposed to dramatically improve the flavor, sweetness and smell of your cum.

Now I can’t vouch for this because I’ve never tried it, but I can see the potential if it works exactly as the manufacturer says it does. Even if you’re already getting blow jobs imagine the surprise on her face if you surprised her by taking Yummy Cum and gave her a new taste sensation.

Some say the problem with a lot of men is that they are selfish lovers, they’re only interested in fulfilling their sexual needs and not that of their partner. Is this part of the man’s psyche? After all most media portray men as tough, aggressive, competitive and as having the need to be winners. You see movies where the sole reason for man’s being is the conquest of all hurdles they come across including women. The truth is that many woman would like men to portray tenderness, care, sensitivity and to be more romantic while lovemaking. So, forget the tapping on the shoulder expecting sex because while it may get you what you want you’re missing out giving her the satisfaction that she craves and deserves.

These same movies also usually portray house chores as being woman’s work and that alone is man’s greatest downfall because they expect women to do all the housework and be at a man’s beck and call when their sexual urges need satisfying. In my post I’m Not Getting Enough Sex What Can I Do? I set certain rules that men should follow if they would to get a little more time in the sack.

If a man really wants to please a woman they need to know that while we can get a hard on almost instantaneously it takes a woman a lot longer to get aroused. There are many books out there that claim to teach men how to please a woman and I find surprising how a lot of them are written by men, as if a man would ever really know how a woman thinks. Personally I think if you want to know what makes a woman tick you need to ask a woman, and keeping that in mind I’ve sourced a few books and DVD’s that you may find illuminating.

269 Amazing Sex Tips and Tricks for Him, 2E

Drive Her Wild: 100 Sex Tips for Men

The Going Down Guide: Tongue Tips and Oral Sex Techniques for Men and Women

Advanced Oral Sex Techniques #2 Video – Great Lovers are Made, Not Born

Loving Sex: What Women Want

Smoldering Embers: Hot Erotic Stories and Sex Tips to Light a Couple’s Fire

That last book was something that I threw in, a book that couples may find interesting as;

Smoldering Embers is a brilliant and exciting book that offers monogamous couples tools to keep the spark alive and the fire burning in their relationships. These powerful tools come in the form of erotic stories and sex tips. Each story takes place between a loving and passionate couple and serves not only as a source of physical arousal, but also promotes new ideas and techniques for a couple to incorporate into their sexual repertoire. Each sex tip is focused on deepening the sexual experience as a couple. The two together provide you with an enticing menu of sex tips, techniques, and secrets guaranteed to keep the sizzle, passion and excitement alive in your relationship.

Keep the Fire Burning in Your Relationship Ignite Passion and Excitement Learn How to be a Fantastic Lover Discover New and Exciting Ideas and Techniques Rediscover a Sense of Playfulness and Adventure Improve Intimacy and Communication Create a Satisfying and Successful Sexual Relationship Stimulate Arousal and Desire Intensify Orgasms

Smoldering Embers will help couples open up and explore their sexuality as a couple and develop a successful sexual relationship that will continue to grow deeper, more passionate, exciting, and satisfying within the context of love and monogamy.
About the Author
Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed., is a writer and sex educator/advisor specializing in sexual intimacy and erotic communication between couples to keep the fire and passion alive. She holds a Bachelors degree in Psychology and a Masters degree in Counseling.

If you find this post useful please tell your friends about it, or at the very least click the Retweet button at the top of the post.

When reading this post let’s keep one thing in mind, we are no longer part of the stone age so why is that so many blokes act as if they were?

Being a bloke and talking to other blokes I find that a common dilemma that many men have is that once they’ve been married for awhile they just don’t get to have sex as often as they used to and no where near as often as they would like. Naturally it’s not their fault, or is it?

Let’s look at if from a woman’s point of  view. When they’re first married things are hot and there’s always a bit of time for a romp in the hay, but next to no time something starts to cook in the oven and then out pops a baby, and before you know it another may pop out. That beautiful wife of yours now has something else to care for other than your complaining ass.

As a bloke you may not realize it but those little bundles of joy take a hell of a lot of work to look after and demand almost constant attention. Even when they’re asleep you can bet your wife is on tender hooks just waiting for that wail that they know is around the corner demanding for attention.

On top of all that she’s also got to keep the house clean and tidy, shit wouldn’t want to give the man of the house something to complain about now would we? Then there’s the shopping and worrying about what the heck she’s going to make for dinner. When you think about it most of us can come home and forget about work while she lives it all 24/7. And on top of all that you expect her to put out for you? What are you some sort of prehistoric caveman or something.

Truth be told most men don’t appreciate their wives, but if they did I bet they would be more than willing to get your rocks off on a more regular basis. So what can you do to attain this goal, keeping in mind that it’s not just for the sex, it’s because you love her and you want to help her. The sex is just a bonus, and oh what a bonus it is.

• Don’t just come home from work, give her a peck on the cheek and then sit down watching TV with a beer in your hand, and if you forget the beer you sure as hell don’t want to yell out for her to get you one.
• Instead take the kids off her hands and attend to their needs for awhile taking some of the stress off her.
• If you see some chores that need to be done don’t complain about it do it yourself basking in the knowledge that you’re helping her out.
• If she’s cooking set the table, and when all is finished clear the table and wash the dishes remembering that while you’ve worked 8 hours she’s got a couple of more on you and there is nothing more tiring than being stressed out over your kids.

Believe me just doing this will help out your cause, but not if you do it just for sex because you have to make it into a regular routine. Also don’t forget to tell her how beautiful she is and how much you love her. I’m sure that most women feel they are less than beautiful because they just haven’t the time to attend to their appearance as they once had.

Every now and again it’s probably also a good idea to show her how much you appreciate her by giving her something special like a Ferrero Rocher Hazelnut Chocolates 48 count gift box. Flowers are also make a great show of appreciation and when you can get  bouquets from as low as $34.99 how could you go wrong.

Another good idea is to plan a night of sensual pleasure with her, and  knowing how those beautiful kids of yours are always on her mind you may want to organize their grandparents to look after then every now an again. You can then take her out to dinner and knowing what awaits you both when you get home only accentuates the sexual juices. If you’re feeling really adventurous you may even bring a sexual toy to the restaurant. I’m talking about a remote controlled vibrator which you can order online at Amazon.

I’m talking about the Trinity Mini Remote Control 10 Speed Egg and what is cool about this is that she wears it why you have control of the remote. One thing that I like about Amazon is that you can view real live comment left by people who have bought and used the products, both positive and negative. Here is what one happy customer had to say;

I read mixed reviews on this product and found myself questioning the purchase afterward, but all of my apprehensions were allayed the first time we used this little gem. The 7 settings allow me to tease my wife in a variety of way, when she least expects it. She says it feels wonderful and is so quite that we can use it in public without the risk of making others aware. It has a great range that allows me to activate the egg from the other room.

The only downside to this product is that it is very easy to activate if you have the remote on your keyring. I had it in my pocket and it ran down the batteries the second day we had it. Other than that, it is a great product I would recommend to anyone looking for a bit of adventure.

By the time you get home things should happen of their own accord. In future posts I will include other ways of increasing your sensual pleasure.

“My husband wants me to give him a blowjob and I can’t bear to bring myself to do it!”

“I don’t mind giving giving him a blowjob but he want’s me to swallow and I just gag. It’s such a turn off.”

Let’s face it, not all women are comfortable giving a blow job, and even less want to go the whole way by sallowing his semen. So what is a woman to do when she wants to make him happy but can’t bring herself to actually doing something she finds repulsive?

The answer is Mastomatic, a unique sex toy that is designed to give the male the sensation of a realistic blowjob. Just like a real blow job it will stroke the penis up and down and even comes with a fully adjustable speed control giving absolute control over the amount of pleasure felt by the male.

So, you see, it can be just the thing for those couples where blowjobs may be causing a rift in the marriage, but the Mastomatic could be so much more. Imagine those couples where the man may ejaculate too quickly for the woman. There may be such feelings of guilt or inadequacy that any further attempt in lovemaking is lost. If one were to introduce the Mastomatic as part of the foreplay with early ejaculation being the whole purpose of it’s use, there would be no need for the lovemaking to stop. It would continue, only this time the male should last a lot longer.

It would also come in handy for those women who have a low libido or the man who has a higher sex drive. Even when the woman is not in the mood to have sex she could use it on her loved one to release all that pent up emotion bringing him to a climax, one more fulfilling than doing it on his own.

The truth of the matter is that not many men would buy one for himself, but for a woman, to show him how much she loves him, perhaps it would make the perfect gift, and seeing how Valentines day is just around the corner, what better time than right now.

With Xmas being just around the corner, there will be a lot of people scratching their heads wondering what to buy their loved one. People often wonder what to buy someone who is perceived to have everything. Perhaps this year it is time to think out of the box.

There is something that every healthy sexual couple has in common, and that is the desire that they are pleasuring their mate as much as they are being pleasured, and when you have been together for awhile, it’s not unusual to wonder if this is actually the case.

Something to keep in mind is no matter if you’re newly weds or if you’ve been married for some years there is nothing wrong with giving that special gift that may just spice up things in the bedroom, or if you’re adventurous in any other room of the house.

Here are a few possibilities for some sexy special Xmas gifts.

For Her

There are a lot of women who think of themselves last, especially if they have kids, and the last thing that they would buy for themselves is some sexy lingerie. So, as the man of the house, you would be doing both of you a favor if you were to consider a nice sexy Wet Look Halter w/ Crotchless Panty & Garter Set for only $27.95. Or if that is a little too raunchy and suggestive you may want to settle for a lovely Crystal Adorned Teddy for only $26.95.

The fact is that they have an enormous selection of sexy outfits and lingerie, too many for me to mention in one post, and you can even get Free Shipping, plus 2 Free Gifts at adamevetoys.com!

NEWS FLASH! You can actually get 50% Off Any One Item at Adamevetoys.com Coupon Code:JOLLY09 Exp: 12/25/09. Yep, this special will only last until 25th of December so you will want to get in early. I’m not sure if the free shipping applies if using this coupon, but then there’s no harm in trying.

The Wi Vibe would make a lovely choice as I’ve heard it was named sex toy of the year. Being a unique clitoral and g-spot vibrator, one that is designed to be worn while you make love. Here is a little excerpt from their website.

The unique We-Vibe, as featured in Cosmopolitan, The Independent, The Sun, Mens Health, Reuters, Playboy and many more, was voted the best sex toy of the year.

The We-Vibe is tiny but has 2 fantastically powerful motors and a supple shape to fit you perfectly and stimulate your g spot and clitoris with exquisite pleasure waves.

Even though it can be worn during intercourse (giving him a rather nice vibe also!) you can just wear your We-Vibe for secret pleasure around the house.

The We-Vibe has a snug fit and is quiet enough to wear under your clothes for secret fun.Try taking it for a walk, in the car or to liven up your next train journey.

The possibilities are endless.

You will find this special product under the “Luxury Sex Toys” section. This is only two selections from hundreds that you can choose from. Imagine how easy it will be to buy something special for almost any occasion.

For Him

Now when it comes to men there are somethings that they probably never consider buying for themselves, and there is one product that may even help out some women. I’m talking about the women who consistently get asked by their man to give them a blow job. Now while some are fine with this others persevere only because they do not want to disappoint. Well ladies, why not buy him a male masturbator, or more specifically, the Mastomatic. Designed to work the penis like a real blowjob this could be the perfect foreplay for any couple, and when you have a real headache you can send him off on his own.

Naturally, you can also follow the above example and buy yourself some sexy lingerie or perhaps something to play out one of his favorite sexual fantasies thereby killing two birds with one stone, something for him and for you.

Whatever you decide, once you consider sex toys and other sexual aids, you have to admit, the possibilities for gifts become endless.